Someone once told me they would love to see my take on the ‘Tiger Mom’ concept. So, I took the opportunity to look into it. The summaries I have read make me a little sick to my stomach. Forcing your kids to do anything to that level is just wrong. I don’t care which way you slice it.
Now, I admit, I have not read it in whole, so I have no clue as to what this woman’s thought process really is. To be honest with you, I don’t want to read it. I value my garbage can that much. Still, as overactive as my curiosity gets, I wanted to know more. In order to answer my biggest Tiger Mom questions, I looked to the stars….
Specifically, I looked at the Chinese Zodiac. I wanted to know what the traits of a Tiger were. What did the Chinese of old believe made a person a Tiger? How did these traits encompass themselves into what is be referred to as a Tiger Mom?
Here’s what I found:
“…most dynamic signs… fascinating, commanding, and exasperating… patient but short-tempered, calm but rebellious, petty but noble, fearsome but affectionate, free spirits but fiercely territorial…reluctance to make up their minds… magnetic and commanding figures… absolute loyalty and affection they show for those they love… air of authority… easily earn the respect and admiration of those who love them in return…”
Don’t get me wrong, there are some excellent traits listed here, but on the flip side, you cannot ignore “reluctant to make up mind, short-tempered, or admiration of those who love them in return!” Not the most nurturing and caring traits you can have. Definitely not the relationship I want with my kids later on. My oldest daughter already threatens to push me down the stairs when I end up in a wheel chair; imagine if I were slave-driving her to learn to play spoons!
I’m sure some of you have probably rolled your eyes already. Astrology is consistently written off as a bunch of hoopla. Problem is, how can you truly sweep it under the rug? Seems pretty coincidental that these 2,000 year old descriptions match most people pretty well, doesn’t it? Maybe the guys (or gals) who wrote all these were just really adept storytellers… who knows.
Now, coming from a Dragon (yes, I know, some of you never saw that coming, right?) married to a seemingly incompatible Ox; trying to raise the best Snakes, Monkeys, and Rats I possibly can? I will full-on admit that we’ve a crazy balance of positive and negative in our family. While I would never change myself, I think if I were told that I had to, I would go with a good set of Ox-Rabbits raising awesome little Monkey-Roosters… maybe even a Dog Pig, simply because I like their style.
Either way, no matter what kind of animals you’ve got in your zoo, teach them the best you can. Be positive. Show them right from wrong. Be stern. Let them fall on their butts occasionally. Just leave the Tiger Mothering to the real tigers.
What do you think? Can you see any tangible outcomes resulting from forced practices, extreme jam sessions, or demeaning your kids as a motivational tool? I mean, sure, the occasional beating never really hurts… (I’m kidding, people…calm down…) Do you think your sign influences your parenting? How?